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Originally Posted by CTinline-six
The problem with the dating site guys is they actually make things more difficult for genuine people like us because women come to expect that behavior as the norm, and automatically put up a wall. Can't say I blame them when you get a constant flow of dick pics and cat calls all day.
The whole thing about walking away from someone who cares... it's tough but if they really cared about you would they treat you the way they did? To me, actions always mean more than words. It's like someone on my team claiming they are a hard worker, yet the work they do reflects the opposite. I don't know your whole situation, but from the bits and pieces I've read it was sudden, and we all know that changes in relationships aren't usually sudden, but progressive (or regressive) over time. If she felt a certain way towards you but did not communicate that to you until it was way too late, and you found out in a hurtful manner, well that is not someone who truly cares about you and your wellbeing.
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You're exactly right on the dating sites. I think I've referred to it in here several times as a never ending carousel of dick....and that is my entire point. How is any woman, who is worth dating, going to think I'm any different than those guys if I'm on there too.
As for the relationship, I see your point completely and don't disagree; however in this instance I believe it is geared more toward lack of emotional development and how one communicates during stressful times. Screaming in the face of someone who has PTSD is not a constructive means of communicating. Unfortunately, I can not risk putting myself in a situation where someone could potentially get upset and start screaming in my face. Those that have PTSD will understand all too well. Bad things happen when you wake sleeping bear with aggression. I won't allow myself to be in that situation. As tough as it is to walk away from someone I care deeply for, my mental health and the ability to sleep without nightmare's trumps a relationship of any kind. If I am open and upfront about my mental state, the other person should appreciate my openness and understand there is a reason for my being open about it; not throw caution to the wind and see how far they can push me because they are upset.
She's a great person, HUGE heart, honest, pretty, amazing body and the sex was something out of a porno but......I could own a mansion and if there was black mold, I couldn't stay there. Sometimes, it only takes one small thing overlooked to ruin what a person spends years building only to be forced to walk away. Tough decision, but aside from my kids; I come first. I'll fill everyone else's glasses after I've filled mine, but I'm not going to fill everyone else's first and then do without. Do I sound like I've had countless hours of therapy?
