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      04-15-2021, 11:13 AM   #8911
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Not going to lower my standards. There is someone out there who will check all my boxes. I have no problem waiting What I want may change over time, and that's fine, but right now I want what I want and I won't settle

I also don't think what I want is unicorn, so we'll see. They say if you want a stable relationship, get a horse, and I've got three of those so I'm ahead of the game lol.
Wasn't there some hot dude you saw in an elevator and then a dating app?!? What happened with that?!....or did I miss that?
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      04-15-2021, 11:21 AM   #8912
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Wasn't there some hot dude you saw in an elevator and then a dating app?!? What happened with that?!....or did I miss that?
In Baton Rouge, yes. I'm in New Orleans. He hasn't seen my profile because I'm out of his mileage range. Only thing I can think of. I'll just have to wait until he expands it.
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The more attractive women always come with more headaches. It sucks.
That's a mighty big brush Officer. A women can be very attractive other than her looks.
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      04-15-2021, 11:32 AM   #8915
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The more attractive women always come with more headaches. It sucks.
That's a mighty big brush Officer. A women can be very attractive other than her looks.
Totally agree. I did paint broadly just in response to what I was quoting. There is more to a good woman than her looks for sure. I think I mentioned it in one of my first posts in this thread about wanting a woman who I can confide in, be emotionally vulnerable to, etc.....and the first response from a guy was that I sound/act like a woman.
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That's a mighty big brush Officer. A women can be very attractive other than her looks.
Absolutely agree.

I'd like to hear from the gents here, what makes a woman attractive to them.
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Not going to lower my standards. There is someone out there who will check all my boxes. I have no problem waiting
I basically said the same thing and in the process I riled a couple of forum dickwads because I chose to put my education ahead of the meat market. But who cares. My life my choices.

And in about two years time, I'll be able to add the title Doctor to my name. And in two years time, if they are still on the Forum, they will still be known as dickwads. Funny, isn't it?
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      04-15-2021, 11:47 AM   #8918
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Totally agree. I did paint broadly just in response to what I was quoting. There is more to a good woman than her looks for sure. I think I mentioned it in one of my first posts in this thread about wanting a woman who I can confide in, be emotionally vulnerable to, etc.....and the first response from a guy was that I sound/act like a woman.
My grandmother told me to find someone I can talk to because hopefully you get to an age where talk is all you can do.

But being a hermit and not wanting to talk to anyone makes even that difficult
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That's a mighty big brush Officer. A women can be very attractive other than her looks.
Absolutely agree.

I'd like to hear from the gents here, what makes a woman attractive to them.
Direct observation absent no other information....
  • ...their smile
  • ...their walk
  • ...their relative level of fitness (...it's pretty important to me)
  • ...their posture

....armed with more relevant data
  • ...their fidelity
  • ...their trustworthiness
  • ...do I feel emotionally safe with them/vulnerable to them?!?
  • ...do I enjoy them just as much out of the bedroom?!?
  • ...do I [reasonably] desire to prioritize them over myself?!?
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I basically said the same thing and in the process I riled a couple of forum dickwads because I chose to put my education ahead of the meat market. But who cares. My life my choices.

And in about two years time, I'll be able to add the title Doctor to my name. And in two years time, if they are still on the Forum, they will still be known as dickwads. Funny, isn't it?


Always put you first. Your education will never dump you.
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      04-15-2021, 11:57 AM   #8921
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Absolutely agree.

I'd like to hear from the gents here, what makes a woman attractive to them.
It's 'both' of you in the first few seconds of glancing at each other, ifyou keep on looking at each other a smile helps and the man then saying something humorous to get things going. Furthermore a darkened bar or club is going to make anyone look more attractive!
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      04-15-2021, 11:58 AM   #8922
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Not going to lower my standards. There is someone out there who will check all my boxes. I have no problem waiting What I want may change over time, and that's fine, but right now I want what I want and I won't settle

I also don't think what I want is unicorn, so we'll see. They say if you want a stable relationship, get a horse, and I've got three of those so I'm ahead of the game lol.
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Absolutely agree.

I'd like to hear from the gents here, what makes a woman attractive to them.
Physical attraction will catch my eye, but a sense of humor and personality will keep my interest. I like someone who I can joke around with, and who gives me shit. Sarcasm is huge with me. Part of the "chase" to me is being attracted to the person's mind not just their body. I've been on dates with very attractive women who I left having no feelings for because they were like talking to a rock.
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Not going to lower my standards. There is someone out there who will check all my boxes. I have no problem waiting What I want may change over time, and that's fine, but right now I want what I want and I won't settle

I also don't think what I want is unicorn, so we'll see. They say if you want a stable relationship, get a horse, and I've got three of those so I'm ahead of the game lol.
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Absolutely agree.

I'd like to hear from the gents here, what makes a woman attractive to them.
Physical attraction will catch my eye, but a sense of humor and personality will keep my interest. I like someone who I can joke around with, and who gives me shit. Sarcasm is huge with me. Part of the "chase" to me is being attracted to the person's mind not just their body. I've been on dates with very attractive women who I left having no feelings for because they were like talking to a rock.

That.....or they were so shallow and lacked ambition and/or substance.
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      04-15-2021, 12:14 PM   #8924
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Direct observation absent no other information....
  • ...their smile
  • ...their walk
  • ...their relative level of fitness (...it's pretty important to me)
  • ...their posture

....armed with more relevant data
  • ...their fidelity
  • ...their trustworthiness
  • ...do I feel emotionally safe with them/vulnerable to them?!?
  • ...do I enjoy them just as much out of the bedroom?!?
  • ...do I [reasonably] desire to prioritize them over myself?!?
You're too much of a perfectionist.
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      04-15-2021, 12:54 PM   #8926
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You're too much of a perfectionist.
Those are basic needs.
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That's a mighty big brush Officer. A women can be very attractive other than her looks.
and the same for men, wouldn't choose a date based on "fuckability", let alone a relationship.

I asked my wife to marry when I realized I wanted to be best friends and partners, rest doesn't matter. That connection is the attraction, "Hotness" wears off quick. (and she's hot AF IMO lol)

-smile
-genuine
-takes care of herself, regardless of body type
-confident
-secure

This has been an enlightening thread to read.
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Direct observation absent no other information....
  • ...their smile
  • ...their walk
  • ...their relative level of fitness (...it's pretty important to me)
  • ...their posture

....armed with more relevant data
  • ...their fidelity
  • ...their trustworthiness
  • ...do I feel emotionally safe with them/vulnerable to them?!?
  • ...do I enjoy them just as much out of the bedroom?!?
  • ...do I [reasonably] desire to prioritize them over myself?!?
You're too much of a perfectionist.
I'm not a perfectionist. I'm not asking for perfection nor a supermodel either. I've dated a woman with those things. It only ended because she was ready for marriage and I wasn't. Much of what I stated comes down to values.
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You're too much of a perfectionist.
Those are basic needs.
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What makes a woman attractive Volume 1

At first, appearance
- Eyes
- Hair
- Overall appearance (she doesn't have to look like a model. I'm attracted to all types. Physical proportionate ratio's must be in check
- Knows how to dress and carry themselves.
- Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene.....utmost importance here.

Later, personality
- Must have their shit together to some degree. She could be a 10 but still be a total
train wreck, pass.
- Drama.....NO. Shit together, good job, attractive, overall greatness but add just a
pinch of drama and I'm out.
- Must be able to carry a conversation. Lack of IQ will result in a lack of sex. I'm
sapiosexual, so this is extremely important. I'm a talker and need someone who not
only knows what I'm talking about, but can keep up.
- Down to earth. We can both be whatever we need to be during the day
professionally, but at night if it's time to relax, all bets are off. If I want to eat left
over Chinese food in the bed at 2:00 am while watching TV and talking, then judge me
not.

Even further later, morals
- Must have their shit together morally. Period. Prioritize life.
- Must have good work ethic. I work my ass off. I expect my partner to be just as
determined as I am to get wherever the hell it is I'm going in life.
- Commitment. I am not going to date anyone I don't feel like I can trust. Been
cheated on, won't deal with it again. Any early indication of this behavior and the
ground will be on fire behind me.

There is so much more, but this is a basic run down of what I find attractive. this was actually kinda therapeutic and I learned a little about myself in the past few minutes, while typing this out. Just my $.02.
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What makes a woman attractive Volume 1

At first, appearance
- Eyes
- Hair
What hair type/style do you prefer?

I have it in my mind that men love long hair.
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What makes a woman attractive Volume 1

At first, appearance
- Eyes
- Hair
What hair type do you prefer?

I have it in my mind that men love long hair.
I have dated women with short hair and long hair. I don't have a preference, as long as it's long enough for me to play with.


....waits for the, "That's what she said!, jokes.
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