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      09-11-2019, 11:44 AM   #4599
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why did she cancel lunch?
i told the last girl it wouldn't work out after she'd basically say no to my invites to do something that isn't really a date, generally with stuff like "im going to brunch with the girls" etc. not really non-plausible, but if you won't even ask to reschedule i'll take that as a no.

she also could be not passive aggressive and could be wanting you to chase after her. i cant say for sure if women at that age still play those games, but given men don't really "grow up" i wouldn't be surprised
i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
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i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
Same here....I never have and never will chase anything. Back then I didn't have the time to be bothered by childish shit seeing as we are all adults.

Oddly enough...it's that type of attitude that kept my neighbor shaking his head at me every time he saw me. Once he told me that his wife said I must own a car dealership as there was a different car around every time she would be outside to notice. .
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Finally got a "Morning" about 9am. Replied with "Good morning" and silence...
Step away from that phone. Don't you dare answer her right away.
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      09-11-2019, 12:46 PM   #4602
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i'm going to be that dickhead and quote myself, yes

idk man, how willing are you to chase a tinder match?
Not very. I was still unsure how good of a match we were personality wise but was prepared to see where it went - not so much now. I don't need this grief, especially not now.
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      09-11-2019, 01:09 PM   #4605
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No. Back to silence.
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No. Back to silence.
I'd leave it this way.
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      09-11-2019, 01:12 PM   #4607
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I'd leave it this way.
Yeah - I will. I'm no good at small talk anyway so I have nothing to say.
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Not very. I was still unsure how good of a match we were personality wise but was prepared to see where it went - not so much now. I don't need this grief, especially not now.
i believe we have reached a conclusion...
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
+1.

You sound like you have a good life. But the best advice I can give is that until you truly realize you can be happy without anyone but yourself....you are going to be more tempted to rely on others for something they may not can give you.

Whether she's trying to play hard to get....or if she thinks you may be on to some ulterior motives.....you can't sweat it.

It sounds like you are well rounded, but also sounds like you've been hurt in the past. Nothing will fix that but time and staying occupied.

I wish you the best!
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Women are always after your cash. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
Part of asking the random heads is I can be a bit more open with how I feel and with what's happening. I had breakfast with a friend today who may have ended up meeting this woman at brunch one weekend - now if we do all meet up, she will be guarded towards this woman as she knows more of what's happening behind the public fašade.

It will always be in the back of my mind as I've been single most of my life with few women taking any interest - so anyone who takes interest now I will be suspicious of. Just wanted to get a feel from others as to how they saw it.
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+1.

You sound like you have a good life. But the best advice I can give is that until you truly realize you can be happy without anyone but yourself....you are going to be more tempted to rely on others for something they may not can give you.

Whether she's trying to play hard to get....or if she thinks you may be on to some ulterior motives.....you can't sweat it.

It sounds like you are well rounded, but also sounds like you've been hurt in the past. Nothing will fix that but time and staying occupied.

I wish you the best!
I'm very used to being single, and am not someone who needs a relationship to be happy - but being in one could be nice. Or could drive me nuts. I am an introvert, so I don't crave the presence and validation of others, but I'm also an affectionate person so the presence of the right one could be good. It's determining the right one that I struggle with.

I've been hurt before but that's well in the past and not a factor now I don't think. What I don't need are games - I have senior executives at my company playing power games and don't need more shit outside work.
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The conclusion was reached during his first post questioning the intent of the relationship. If you need to ask random heads advice on whether or not to make a relationship more serious or if she's after your cash then you already know the answer (or at least it'll always be in the back of your mind which will only lead to more harm if things progress). When you know you'll know, other then that just enjoy your time boss. Just my 2cents though
Part of asking the random heads is I can be a bit more open with how I feel and with what's happening. I had breakfast with a friend today who may have ended up meeting this woman at brunch one weekend - now if we do all meet up, she will be guarded towards this woman as she knows more of what's happening behind the public façade.

It will always be in the back of my mind as I've been single most of my life with few women taking any interest - so anyone who takes interest now I will be suspicious of. Just wanted to get a feel from others as to how they saw it.
Didn't mean to have any malice in what I said. What I intended to convey is that at the end of the day it's how you feel in your given circumstances. Opinions from us will only sway your current thoughts for so long.

To be honest I don't know how I would go about relationships in your shoes. Where others are just looking for your typical perfect women you have to factor in a substantial amount of risk given your financial situation. Luckily (shocking that I'm saying that as id love to have 8 figures) I'll never have to consider that factor.
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Didn't mean to have any malice in what I said. What I intended to convey is that at the end of the day it's how you feel in your given circumstances. Opinions from us will only sway your current thoughts for so long.

To be honest I don't know how I would go about relationships in your shoes. Where others are just looking for your typical perfect women you have to factor in a substantial amount of risk given your financial situation. Luckily (shocking that I'm saying that as id love to have 8 figures) I'll never have to consider that factor.
Oh - no malice assumed. It's just good to get differing views. If 9/10 people had come back saying I was being silly, I'd take that on board (and probably ignore it lol). I know I can react strangely (many people have thought I had Aspergers, but having empathy rules that out) so was trying to get a feel for it.

Sadly it's the double edged sword we don't often think about - like famous people can't so easily go out in public without a disguise. It's the price you pay I guess.
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Yeah - various things have happened over the past 4 years and I have become more withdrawn and less interested in anything. I've been searching for hobbies but everything I find is either meh or done that before.
"IIIIIII, have become, comfortably numb"
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I'm very used to being single, and am not someone who needs a relationship to be happy - but being in one could be nice. Or could drive me nuts. I am an introvert, so I don't crave the presence and validation of others, but I'm also an affectionate person so the presence of the right one could be good. It's determining the right one that I struggle with.

I've been hurt before but that's well in the past and not a factor now I don't think. What I don't need are games - I have senior executives at my company playing power games and don't need more shit outside work.
Everyone has their own issues, and I don't think there is anything wrong with being an introvert. My wife is one.

But reading some of your posts especially about few women taking interest in you is selling yourself short in my opinion.

Just trust your gut in these situations as it sounds like it's worked pretty well in other areas of your life.

I'm a big believer in karma....so be the best person you can be and when things are ready to happen in that aspect, I feel that they will happen no matter how long it takes.

I just read about you becoming withdrawn and losing interest, and you really need to break that cycle as much as your personality will allow as it could lead to more distrust of others....and you might miss out on someone who could care less about your financial accomplishments.

No one should have to feel that way unless that's just what they prefer.

Like I said...my wife is an introvert. I'm the opposite so she's come out of her shell big time in the last 8 year's or so. But she's also taught me that sometimes I'm too trusting of people. And let's face it, reality is that there are plenty of people out there looking to take advantage of others. It sucks but it's true.

It's definitely give and take between her and I as I have to respect her boundaries.

Not trying to critize you as I'm definitely not a shining example for people to follow.

I guess in all my ramblings....I'm just saying don't sell yourself short when it comes to this area of your life. Obviously you are successful, and you deserve to be happy in other areas of your life as well.

And if that means a partner to share your life with or just spend time with....you are as entitled to that as much as anyone else is.

Yours is just a unique situation given the circumstances, so I can appreciate the apprehension you may have. It just unfortunately means you might have to wade through more BS than other people might have to.
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