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      02-08-2020, 11:08 AM   #5435
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Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.
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Honestly...I believe you are over thinking it. In a situation like that, I would be acting like it's not a big deal.....lining something else up if you have options, and let her be the pursuer.
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Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.
It's puzzling that she's not able to find time until then. I don't think 7 is too late for dinner. Or is she not eating dinner during that whole time? How 'bout lunch? People find time to do the things they want to do.

Rmtt is right, though. Have a couple other dates with other people in the meantime, to get perspective. This thing will be what it is...whatever that is. It's out of your control, so don't obsess over it.
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Honestly...I believe you are over thinking it. In a situation like that, I would be acting like it's not a big deal.....lining something else up if you have options, and let her be the pursuer.
Trying to line up more option as well, but you know how online dating is lol. It is a mission to find someone decent lol.
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Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.
It's puzzling that she's not able to find time until then. I don't think 7 is too late for dinner. Or is she not eating dinner during that whole time? How 'bout lunch? People find time to do the things they want to do.

Rmtt is right, though. Have a couple other dates with other people in the meantime, to get perspective. This thing will be what it is...whatever that is. It's out of your control, so don't obsess over it.
That's what I'm saying, if she really wanted to meet up she'd make time to get together. Females man.. can never understand them.
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That's what I'm saying, if she really wanted to meet up she'd make time to get together. Females man.. can never understand them.
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Trying to line up more option as well, but you know how online dating is lol. It is a mission to find someone decent lol.
Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.

When I was doing this, I would have a different date each night....sometimes 2 different dates in the same day.

I wasn't interested in being serious with anybody, and that attitude seemed to permeate out to anyone around me....and I guess they figured it was a challenge as it was hard to get rid of them.
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Trying to line up more option as well, but you know how online dating is lol. It is a mission to find someone decent lol.
Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.

When I was doing this, I would have a different date each night....sometimes 2 different dates in the same day.

I wasn't interested in being serious with anybody, and that attitude seemed to permeate out to anyone around me....and I guess they figured it was a challenge as it was hard to get rid of them.
Gona give it a shot... been slacking on it lol. Let's see if I catch any fish

Shit kinda turned me off by her wanting to wait 2 weeks before meeting up again. If you wanted to hang out, you'd make time one way or the other.
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That's the spirit. Be selfish.....it's all about you. You can do that and be cordial at the same time. Just look at it as practice. After awhile of doing that, you learn to read people quickly.

If she can't make time for you, she's not worth your time
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When I started dating again as a newly single man, one of the first was a girl who was 5" taller than me! She was like a Amazon. Beautifully built, hair to her waist...and did I mention 5" taller. She actually had done some modeling for Vespa in the past, and also a "hand " model.

But she was also my first taste of how crazy some of them could be and I ended it. After that I was a lot more wary of the emotional health of people I would see although they hide it pretty well when they want to.
So, she was like what, 5' 4"???
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Try this....line up options that you don't expect anything serious to come out of it. Approach it as you are looking for someone to accompany you out just to have fun. No strings attached.

Like one poster said....cast a net and see what bites. Of course don't settle for some hag, but if they look decent enough and willing to go out for company....go for it.
This is what I have been doing for years. If I meet someone that sticks, awesome. Otherwise, at least I'm getting laid.
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Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.
Write her off. Women that do that are not serious about you and/or meeting someone good. Been there done that.
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
You did her a favor. You were a jerk
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
Brother, I appreciate your frustration. But you seem a little fried and a little bitter. Maybe it's time to take a break. I think you may be in a place where even if you met someone cool, you wouldn't be very receptive to it/her. Just my thoughts, one guy to another.
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
That shit isn't doing you any favors my man.
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
Take it easy bro lol
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
I have to agree with the rest of the crew here. This was a bit harsh...and I feel like I know your personality well enough to know where you are coming from. I think "jaded" doesn't even come close to where you are.
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
Damn dude... that's kinda fkd up. Maybe try to take a break from dating for a while and get back into it in a few months?
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Alright boys! Got a second date with her to come in 2 weeks lol. She is supposedly busy all next week, and the week after she has time.

But... if she was interested wouldn't she free up here calendar to grab dinner again next week? Or am I just overthinking all this? She goes to the gym 5x a week, and frees up around 7... so that would be somewhat late for us to hang out and get dinner so she suggested the week after she'll work it in.
Write her off. Women that do that are not serious about you and/or meeting someone good. Been there done that.
Nah man... I will give her the benefit of the doubt this one time. If it happens again and I'm told to wait that long again next time, I'll let her know I don't think she's serious about dating or finding someone and it's time we stop talking since I don't want to waste my time.
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I was supposed to have a new date last night. It was supposed to be 6 PM then it turned into 6:15 then 6:22 then she texts "parked" & a few more minutes go by still nothing (The lot is across the damn street from the place!!!!)

Told her I'd meet her outside the place beforehand so I'm there in the cold waiting. She finally waltzes over asking if I'm Tom. I said "I might be" she asks again so I said the same. Bitch did you never look at my pics or what?!

What does she do? Just turns & goes inside the place. Don't let me walk over or hold the door for me or anything. I said F this cunt & just went home.

A minute or 2 later, I get a text from her "I'm inside" Is she super stupid, an asshole or both? I told her off & blocked her # at that point.

Can ya tell I'm fed up with dating & this society?
Unlike everybody else here, I think you did the right thing and you reacted appropriately. It's pretty obvious that she didn't respect your time and was most likely looking for a free meal.
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